fibroVOICE©: Melanie Moake, RN
Awhile back I asked for help. I was feeling overwhelmed trying to work on a new project, put out new blog posts, create other new content, and keep my auto-posting schedule full—all while LIVING a fibroLIFE©. The very first person who offered to help me was someone who has always come running to my rescue.
I want to introduce you to my sister, Melanie Moake, RN.
Melanie Leonberger Moake is not your typical fibroVOICE©.
Her career has primarily consisted of small hospital nursing, which means “you do it all”. She comfortably goes from taking care of patients on the floor to working the emergency room, as if that is what all nurses can and will do. She has also worked in Long Term Care.
She is a caregiver at heart. She cared for her aging ex-in-laws. She cared for a dying friend. She cared for her late husband during an extended chronic pain battle. She now manages our elderly, arthritis-ridden father’s care. For that alone, she should be nominated for sainthood!
She does not have Fibromyalgia, thank goodness! She does not work with Fibromyalgia patients specifically. There was a time when she was not entirely sold on the validity of Fibromyalgia. That obviously has changed.
We were not in the same household very often during childhood, plus she was older and out on her own while I was still young. She was never far away, however. Numerous times she came running when things at home were not safe for me. I stayed with her anytime I wanted or needed to and even lived with her for over a year at one point. She was certainly around enough to know I was always sick with one thing or another, had multiple allergies, had a lot of aches and pains, etc. But given how home was, plus I was a perfectionist, we all mostly wrote off my health issues to stress.
When I got older, we stayed in touch, but mostly what she knew of my life was my success with school, work, etc. and about my boys. She was not really in the loop on my steadily declining health. But when her baby sister had to stop working because of Fibromyalgia, she said, “She is the most ambitious person I know. If Meshea is too sick to work, what she has is real.” She has never doubted me, in this, or in anything. I am not sure that she necessarily believed everyone else at that time, but she did believe me! Time, experience, and her own battle with arthritis however have given her insights into the world of chronic pain I wish she could have been spared.
Over the years, I have roped my dear sister into many things, including taking over a writers’ group I had started and ran for years. I was never able to convince her to become a part of fibroLIFE© however. I do not blame her though. She has wonderful grandchildren and she plays a major role in their lives. Between making time for them, work, doing everything Daddy wants done, and home—and she still deals with the writers’ group—she does not really have a lot of free time. When I asked for help a couple of weeks ago, I certainly did not dream she would be the first one to step up. Immediately however she posted, “How can I help?”
Melanie Moake, RN, does not write about Fibromyalgia or blog, although she certainly could from the perspective of being a nurse, a relative to someone with Fibromyalgia, and because she has had chronic pain issues greatly affect her own life in several ways. Perhaps in time she will decide to share her thoughts with us. For now, however, she is the fibroVOICE© that makes sure her sister’s fibroVOICE© gets posted on a regular basis, freeing me up to create new content, new blog posts, and develop fibroLIFE© projects in spite of having Fibromyalgia.
Melanie Moake, RN, has always been an advocate at heart. Certainly she has and continues to increase the quality of life for strangers as well as people she knows. Now she has ventured into what I call “Fibro-world” to help her baby sister once again. Thankfully this time she did not have to literally save me, but that does not diminish that her fibroVOICE© is a much needed and welcomed addition to MesheaCrysup.com and fibroLIFE©.